2018 will be a year where I will be bold with my content and I want to start the conversation around topics that matter. This will start a series of post about self-love and self-care. I will still serve my audience with things that we share in common but in the midst of it all, I want to share things that are important. By opening the conversations that may one day mend a heart, strengthen a soul and save a life. This will serve as one of those posts.
Allow me to tell you about The Problem with The Pretty Girl.
When I was growing up I had gapped teeth, dressed like a boy and had blemishes all over my face. There was no one who could tell me that I was pretty, no one. My dad would not let a day that went by that he did not tell me to believe in myself and that I was beautiful. This didn’t matter because what I saw, is what I believed. As I grew up I learned how to live with it. I cried at night before bed and early in the mornings before I got out of bed.
Why am I telling you all this?
Let’s be honest. When you see me, you may see a ‘pretty girl’ someone that has it all. You don’t see that gapped tooth blemished face girl, you see me now. And you may think that I have it all. Most women who are attractive rarely get the help that they need. Because everyone thinks that we have it all. Everything so how could there be anything that we lack in. People think that pretty women get all the guys (or women), we don’t have to work for anything, opportunities are given to us and everyone jumps at our beckon call (boy, do I wish that last one was true!)
Let me break down the reality.
- Men (and women) are less likely to approach an attractive woman.
- Attractive women have to work just as hard if not harder to earn what we want. Because we value showing our worth. Not all of the attractive women look for ‘free’ opportunities.
- We are less likely to have someone reach out to us and offer help.
“But DeAna, you’re a model and an actress you have even appeared on television.”
Let me give you a 2nd dose of reality.
When I started modeling I did it because I knew how I felt about myself, but when I saw myself captured on camera… I felt beautiful. The camera gave me the chance to see myself as others see me. I knew at that moment I wanted to reach other women at all stages of their lives to help them. The women who feel like they are not beautiful because I saw a way to show them how they are, truly.
As I bring my post to an end I ask one thing from you.
The next time you are scrolling (or trolling) on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook and you come across the picture of that pretty girl I want you to see a human being.
I am so grateful that there are other human beings that are interested in what I have to share, but I do not want these same humans to feel like I am not human. I am just like you. The only thing that is different is I have a journey that may not look like yours, and that is okay.
P.S. If there is ever a question that you want to ask me, then ask. If there is a topic you want to bring to light, let’s talk about it. I believe in transparency. I don’t want to just talk about it, I want my actions to show it.
With my warm heart, I appreciate you.